Do I Have to Tell My Partner I Want an Abortion?

December 26, 2025

Facing an unexpected pregnancy can bring a lot of uncertainty, especially when you’re deciding your next steps and figuring out what your upcoming season of life will look like. You may be processing your thoughts privately and wondering how to handle a conversation about your pregnancy that feels heavy or emotionally charged.

At Heart to Heart, we offer free, no-cost, confidential services in a non-judgmental setting. Schedule an appointment today to talk with someone who will listen and support you as you consider your next steps.

Your Decision, Your Voice

This is your pregnancy, and the decision ultimately belongs to you. That said, many people choose to include their partner in the conversation, especially if the relationship is healthy and respectful. Open communication can help build trust and allow both of you to understand what the other is feeling.

At the same time, your safety and emotional well-being come first. If you’re concerned about how your partner might react, it’s okay to pause or seek support before sharing anything. You can also choose not to share to protect yourself; this is your decision. 

You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or call 911 in an emergency. You deserve to feel safe and supported as you navigate this moment.

Approaching the Conversation

If you decide to talk with your partner, a little preparation can help. Think through what you want to say and what kind of support you’re hoping for. Choosing a calm, private setting can make it easier to speak openly without interruptions.

Being honest about your feelings while also allowing your partner time to process can help keep the conversation respectful. Even when you don’t agree, listening to one another can clarify perspectives and reduce tension. 

Healthy communication doesn’t mean having all the answers; it means approaching the discussion with respect.

Take the Next Step with Support

You don’t have to navigate this alone or rush into a conversation before you’re ready. Whether you need help preparing to discuss a topic with your partner or require accurate information about your options, Heart to Heart is here for you.

Schedule your no-cost appointment today to meet with us and take your next step with peace of mind.

Heart to Heart does not provide or refer for abortions.